The other morning I woke up feeling really tired. I’d had a few nights of not enough sleep. In this state, my mind so easily went to negative thoughts. For a little while, I felt frustrated and down, swamped in the negativity.
But then, because I’ve worked to practise and make a habit of focusing on my internal state to change the way I feel, I called myself out for what I was doing and stopped.
I said to myself, “It’s up to me. I get to choose. I can choose to feel good now. Stop wishing things were different and choose to have a good day.”
So you know what? I got up, stayed in choice all day and I DID have an amazing day!
Not because things went the way I wanted (I can never rely on that, and it’s an external focus) but because I focused on my INTERNAL state – how I was choosing to think and feel about life, not what was happening.
It’s not even my negative thoughts that were the problem.
Negative thoughts can just seem to “drop in” to your head without your control, like they did for me that morning. But I get to choose whether I believe those thoughts and stay stuck in them or not, and that’s the key.
From this state of consciously choosing how I want to feel, it’s easy to be present, grateful and joyful.
So here’s the thing that we constantly forget, and need to keep reminding ourselves: True happiness and feeling good is an inside job.
It’s a skill, a practise, a habit, a CHOICE.
It’s not what happens, it’s how you respond to what happens.
If you keep practising, over time it becomes a stronger habit.
Managing your internal state is a practice that we need to commit to. It seems we’re hard-wired to want what we don’t have, believing that if we can just get things to go the way we want we’ll feel better. But the constant grasping for what we want and trying to push away what we don’t, will never bring lasting happiness.
So you’ll catch yourself wishing things were different so you can feel better, and stop. Remember when you do this you’re giving away your true power.
Stop and switch your focus from an external focus, to an internal one. Choose to change your thoughts and feelings.
It’s all within you. Choose to feel good today. No conditions needed.
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