2 Enlightening Things About Forgiveness You Might Not Know

2 Enlightening Things About Forgiveness You Might Not Know

I was recently working with someone who’d been badly abused over a long period of time and was still suffering emotionally.

She didn’t think he deserved her forgiveness. And she definitely didn’t want to have to go to him to say, “I forgive you.”

But she didn’t need to. And forgiving him, as I explained, was for her peace and freedom, not his. He didn’t even need to know she’d done it.

To forgive him would not be saying that what he did was ok. But she could acknowledge that he was acting from an unconscious, fear-based way of being.

Is there someone who’s hurt you that you’re refusing to forgive?

As the saying goes, holding on to anger is like holding a hot coal and expecting the other person to get burned.

Forgiving someone who’s hurt you is ALL about your inner peace and freedom.

You don’t even need to go to the other person about the matter. Forgiveness can be done in the privacy of your own mind and heart.

To forgive does not mean that what the person did to you was ok. It means you let go of what happened so that you can move on with peace.

If it still feels too hard to do, first practice bringing deep love and compassion to yourself around the matter.

Then, in the quiet privacy of your own mind and heart, visualise that person in front of you. Take some time to connect with the energy of your heart centre and the love within you. Then consciously send loving forgiveness to them. It can also be very helpful to imagine the tie between you being cut and you setting yourself free from the connection (with love).

I hope that you find this helpful. Forgiveness truly does bring freedom.

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10 Responses to 2 Enlightening Things About Forgiveness You Might Not Know

    • Hi Sam, I suggest closing your eyes, set a clear intention about your desire to forgive a certain person/or yourself. Bring your attention to your heart centre and breathe into that space. Imagine that you are sending love and forgiveness to you (and also to the other person if applicable). Tell yourself (or the other person) whatever you want to say, with the utmost compassion and kindness. Staying connected to your heart centre and the present will help you to do this. You may feel that you need to do it a few times until you feel at peace with the situation. Another wonderful tool to combine with this is the Ho’oponopono technique (which you can look up). I hope this helps!

  1. Thank you Kelly .
    I’ve been holding a hot coal for years and
    It has made me really physically and emotionally unwell.
    I truly understand what I need to do to set myself free.
    Thank you ?

  2. Thankyou Kelly,a good reminder to not hold unforegiveness . Yes there is freedom for both parties when we choose to forgive them.Health and happiness.

  3. Thankyou Kelly, this is SO relevant to my situation at the moment, am loving the weekly links & cannot wait to be able to sign up for more. I need all the help I can as am going through a tough time. You are a saviour and the guidance I need.
    Cheers & love,

  4. Absolutely ? ? I have held on to anger in the past but realised does you No good, more harm than good. Saps all your energy. Better to forgive and move on with your life. Be happy and enjoy, positive thinking all the way ?

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